No-Nonsense Non-Monogamy: casual reminder that being queer is not a competition
Author: Shrimp Teeth
Exploring queerness, polyamory, and sexuality
Being queer isn’t a competition.
I don’t ask myself “am I queer/ non-binary/ kinky/polyam ENOUGH,” cause it ain’t a fucking Olympic sport.
Some people are out here acting like they need to win a gold medal to feel valid. No one defines “enough” but you.
You are always gonna be chasing if you need external validation.
And no, gatekeepers aren’t the judges of queerness. They’re scared. They’re also stuck competing for something that doesn’t fucking exist.
You’ll never win at imaginary games designed to make you feel bad. Stop playing.
Tapping out is as easy as saying “your perception of me isn’t my reality.”
People are gonna judge you regardless. You decide if you appoint them the judge or not.
Queers who ask you to prove yourself are the ones lacking confidence.
Remember, nonsense is JUST nonsense. Let it go.
Sam is a sex educator and artist who explores queerness, polyamory, and sexuality through their work. She’s passionate about exploring ways to broaden relationship structures to foster more connections between people. They use art and illustration as part of their education process.
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